7 steps to loss

essays · July 30, 2024

i was holding on to you so so tightly

good intentions in mind

my love flowed in but

air couldn’t enter

couldn’t leave

but you could still breathe.

right?

there must have been a hole

because you slipped through

but somehow

i’m the one falling

step 1:

cry about it

i suppose

if you absolutely must

but keep it to yourself

let your tears reach nowhere

but your pillows

let their dampness lull you to sleep

have a great night of sweet dreams

filled with bittersweet reminders

of what once was

step 2:

stop hoping

but how can you ever stop

longing for what’s lost

your love is laced with foolishness

as you hope for reunion

but it’s like a diamond

plunged into the vast ocean

not truly gone

its value still existing

but disconnected eternally

step 3:

just find a replacement.

you know

you know very well

nothing is permanent

everything is replaceable

like a car tire

that’s been flattened

and nailed

and sliced

and torn

but this time

it’s the whole car

demolished beyond repair.

now you’ll have to walk,

but how effective is walking?

not very

just like the “replacement” you’re told to find.

step 4:

now you’re angry

juggling the fires within you

careful not to jitter

but you’re jolted

now scorched.

i can feel your ignited insides

threatening to crumble

with accusations for what should’ve

regret of what could’ve.

you needed each other

like happiness and pain

as pain will never be met

without first encountering happiness

and happiness is only who she is

because of pain’s contrast

but why now

why did you turn my happiness into pain

why did you leave me

step 5:

don’t mention it

out loud

ever

please

we don’t care

complaints are clearly a cacophony

so keep it contained.

let it boil within you and

if the heat gets unbearable

do what you must but

do not remove your lid

don’t let your fire out

your feelings out

but once you’ve cooled off

show us your smile,

but closed-lip

to keep the pain sealed within

step 6:

eventually

the fire in you does diminish

dwindling down to darkness

daintily decomposing

then decidedly developing

into despair

and

the anguish has returned

yet again

crawling through the crevices

tingling at every turn

remembrance carved into your bones

giving your every motion a somber undertone

step 7:

at last

the final step

i know

you know

is acceptance.

but is it really?

it’s more like

“dismiss”

dismiss the memories

dismiss the love

dismiss the laughter

dismiss it all

or maybe “forget”

forget the times

forget the pain

forget the pleasure

but truly

its yearning

a forever yearning

that may diminish

may be shadowed

may be buried miles underneath

but never entirely gone

it’ll always be there

for you’ll always be there

with me in soul

but corporally apart.